1. Lack Of Communication:
If both of you are unaware of what’s going on in each other’s life, your relationship is headed to doom. Any bond that lacks communication is bound to fall apart. You need to talk to each other and find ways to spend quality time together. If you love someone, then talking to them and communicating the problems that are arising in the relationship should be your priority.
2. Lack Of Trust:
There’s no point in dating your partner if he/she doesn’t trust you or believe what you say or vice versa. This will eventually lead down a bitter road. You need to learn how to trust your partner, not just in the case of jealousy but also when it comes to making financial, career or any other responsible choices. Trust them to make good decisions, and be responsible.
3. Infidelity:
Cheating on your partner is an unpardonable mistake. Also, it’s never a mistake, it is almost always a choice. Excuses like alcohol, getting carried away with the moment are just excuses. If your partner cheats on you, remember that second chances are highly likely to not work out. A University Of Denver’s study on infidelity states that 70% of partners who have cheated in the past, will cheat again. Unless you and your partner talk it out and reach a mutual agreement, a breakup is inevitable.
4. Unrealistic Expectations:
Expectations always lead to disappointments. Most couples end up demanding far too much than the other can offer or deliver. This usually results in them falling apart. Setting unrealistic expectations from your partner, for example, expecting the relationship or your partner to stay the same, can often lead to a breakup. Accept the fact that people change and grow, that does not mean that they love you any less because of it.
5. Boredom:
Complacency is a synonym for the death of a relationship. If you or your partner is bored and feel that the relationship is getting stale, it’s the end. However, this is a decision that should be taken after a lot of consideration. You both should ideally talk it out and try planning a weekend getaway. Even if it is not extravagant, just a simple itinerary where both of you get time to bond will help you understand if this is a dead end or it can be fixed.
6. Misunderstandings:
Misunderstandings creep up when there is a lack of communication or when you give out inadequate information to your partner. It’s important to talk it out otherwise one of you is likely to hold grudges that will manifest into nasty fights. Your partner loves you and is always there to listen, you need to trust them enough to share your thoughts with them when you are concerned about a situation.
7. Bad Habits:
Bad habits die hard, they say. If they don’t care about hygiene or get addicted to drugs and refuse to quit, you’ll definitely call it quits! However, if your partner shows the slightest interest in kicking their addiction, you should be there to support them and help them. If they are willing to stop then you can salvage the relationship.
8. Never-Ending Arguments:
Arguments are inevitable. No two people are the same and hence there’ll always be a difference of opinion. But incessant quarrels that go unresolved, kill a relationship. Instead of having an argument over everything, why not try and talk to your partner in a neutral manner? I know it is easier said than done. But if you both don’t want to give up on this relationship then seeing a couples therapist, and bringing everything out in the open is your best shot.
9. Jealousy And Insecurities:
Unwarranted jealousy or unexplainable insecurities are the root cause of most tussles. They can trigger a breakup in a relationship. Instead of festering insecurities, it is better to talk about what is bothering you and bring it out in the open. Hiding your jealousy will only give it more power.
10. Lying and Hiding:
When you feel the need to hide or lie to your partner, fearing that they may not understand your side of the story, your relationship has already fallen apart. If you think you can’t open up to your partner without them judging you, then there is a huge communication gap between the two of you and you need to address this problem.
